The Attributes of True Love

The love day should occur every day in a lovely environment. It is ok if a day is dedicated to love-expression but will be much more profitable if such a day includes a period of reflection, reflecting on some attributes of love.

True love is not always determined by the lovely gifts, expensive restaurants, or special date night, but also being real to each other.

These days, love seems to have lost its original definition amid all kinds of self-made, assorted definitions, and thus the reaping of the effects of generationally modified love definitions.

For love to be a real, lasting one, it must be all-encompassing. Somebody said to me recently, ‘I gave up on love a long time ago’. Superficial love, rash and rushed upon, benefit-based, self-gratifying love, does not stand the test of time. It fizzles out with ease.

What are the attributes of Real and true love?

Love is natural; you cannot enforce it, otherwise, it loses its value.
Love is sacrificial, compassionate, patient, and tolerant. It is not about ‘me’ but ‘you’ & ‘us’.
Love sees good parts of their partner much more than the dented parts.
Love is not blind to the truth or faults but manages them well with wisdom.
Love is more optimistic rather than pessimistic.
Love is considerate, not self-centered.
Love does not resist constructive corrections, but submissive and willing to learn. Love is not the boss that sits on the throne and dishes out instructions.
Love is neither proud nor arrogant but gentle. It does not know it all. Love listens and it is empathetic rather than being sympathetic.

Love described in the book of 1Corinthians 13:1-8

Love does not envy anyone but appreciates the good in others.
Love is kind and does not seek its own. It is not easily provoked. It does not desire evil in others nor rejoice in the downfall of anyone.
The resiliency in true love is very great and unique.
The talents and gifts may fail, power, wealth may fail, but not the real love. It abides through thick and thin.

The question is, how do we find such love? Don’t look for it in the other person first, look for it within. As love attracts, it will attract the right one, at the right time, in the right place, from the right person, especially when that love takes its root from God.

Even when a heart does not seem to agree with all of the above, it still gently and humbly seeks after the best of everything. It does not follow after the majority carry the votes. It sought out its uniqueness and make the best of it. It pursues strength where it can only be found. It tracks down the never-failing foundational and reference love that is only available in Christ.

Most importantly is God’s love for us who is “not willing that any should perish, but that all should come to repentance” (2 Peter 3:9). God’s invaluable love for us made Him give “his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life” (John 3:16). This central love is a milestone to any other and a secret of success to any loving relationship.

Author: O. Margaret Akinloye

I used to be a country girl raised humbly by my God-conscious grandmother. My grandmother made me read the Bible to her every day until I fell in love with the God of the Bible. After high school, I gave my life completely to Christ at Reinhard Bonnke Crusade and got adopted by the ministry of Pastor/Dr. W.F Kumuyi. When I gave Christ my life, He took it, redecorated it in His ways, and added meaning to it. I am happily married and blessed with three wonderful children. Dr. Akinloye, O. Margaret (Ph.D., JP, PMP)

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