“GOD save the king” was the chorus of the coronation day as King Charles III was crowned the king of England. Although the powerful and eventful day was filled with mixed feelings and reactions, the fact remains that a king and a queen were crowned.
Learning from the past histories is one of the best ways to prepare for the future. Few things to ruminate upon.
An heir to the throne had fallen in love with an unacceptable lady. As responsibility is important in the royal family, things were rerouted strategically to prevent the relationship and save the future crown.
Then came a new damsel of a good countenance and notable features. Whether it was an emotional, sentimental, or arranged relationship, a marriage was established, and the royal family seemed happy to have secured the future of the crown. But that union bred pain, frustration, sorrow, death, and bitterness that are still in discussion to these days.
It was a house built on a weak foundation, struggling with the windy and stormy test of time.
Genuine love is a major building block of any relationship. Love must come from the heart and must be from both sides.
Love can be so powerful. Manipulating affection, relationships, marriages, and destiny is often dangerous. Yes, maybe a handful of such marriages have worked or are still working without love, but the fact that a dead clock will be right twice in 24 hours does not make it a standard clock.
It is essential to treat a loving relationship between two people with carefulness. Sometimes, worries and anxieties take hold of parents, but we can always trust God with the future of anybody or anything, including our children to rid unforseen complications.
Today, either in a right or crooked way, the head that was once rejected, now wears the crown. Could that be destiny? It seems that there are many things we will never comprehend in this world. It is also clear that there is no sin that God cannot pardon if the accused is sincerely repentant. People might continue to live in bitterness and enlist in revenge races, but that might not matter in the long run.
Should the Queen have allowed Prince Charles to go ahead with his relationship with his first choice? Most parents desire good marriages for their children and often do whatever it takes to ensure the best choice for them. The question is:
To what extent should parents dictate or influence their children in choosing a spouse for marriage? Should they influence it at all?
As parents, you have dedicated your lives to bringing up your children in a decent, responsible, and godly way. You have let go of many things to give them the best you can offer. Continuing on that path is very important to make the effort worthwhile. You want your children to be happy in their marriage because their happiness and fulfillment in life will also bring you peace of mind and happiness. You also do not want to be an in-law to your core enemy.
Marriage could make or mar, marriage could kill potential or enhance success. Marriage could cut life short or could extend it in good health. That is why many parents would dare anything to ensure a better home for their children.
But then, we do not know what the future holds for anyone or what tomorrow may bring. Only God knows tomorrow. Curiosity and skepticism are great traits to utilize before handing your child over to a stranger, but prayer is an unfailing weapon in helping your children with their choice of partner. This would be easier when those children have been brought up in the fear of the Lord! The Bible says to train up a child in the way he should go and when he is old, he will not depart from it. After giving our children the best gift of the gospel, our follow-up prayers will not fail in their life. This is the best we can do for them, rather than insisting on our perspective over theirs.
Check the Red Flag
No doubt Diana was such a beautiful lady with great character, full of life, kindness, and hospitality. It was not difficult for her to gain the attentions of the world with her heart-warming and charming life. But marriage is not solely about beauty or handsomeness. Appearance, beauty, affluence, power, and authority do not determine a happy home. One thing is to be in love with someone, another thing is that the person loves you without any reservation.
From the pictures, videos, articles, accounts, and documentaries available everywhere, it is obvious that the heart of Charles has always been with Camilla rather than Dianna or any other ladies.
However, should any relationship be worth the blood of anyone? Should we be so desperate about our passion at the expense of the life and home of another person? The Bible says this world will pass away with its lust and we shall be remembered for what we have done. For what shall it profit a man, if he shall gain the whole world, and lose his own soul? Or what shall a man give in exchange for his soul? Mark 8:36,37.
Truly, God is a compassionate God who is not willing that ANY should perish. He will forgive the ‘vilest offender who truly believes’. However, we can not continue in sins and expect grace to abide. We must be wise.
Know When to Let Go
Sometimes, it is necessary to close our eyes and let go of those things we are holding on to so badly. A man of God once prophesied in his message, “sometime God take away the good thing you are holding on to, to give you His best”.
Many time we deprive ourselves of the best God would have given to us by insisting on the toys on our hands. Pastor WF Kumuyi prophetically explained in one of his sermons on blissfulness of marriage that “the stop of the righteous could also be ordered by the Lord”. Sometimes, the stop is not always the bad thing.
We must understand that success and fuflfiment in life is beyond what is being displayed outwardly or the appraisal of some men, the package also comes with peace of mind, good name, true freedom, and strength of characters.
The Perfect Matchmaker
For the unmarried, there is no better Matchmaker than God. He is an omniscience God. He made you and knows the best man or woman for you. Remember, ‘Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain…’. If we allow God, He will guide every step, and when He leads you in the choice of a partner, He will be right there standing with you.
So, before you say yes to anyone, ensure the yes is worth it. Check with God. Don’t be in a haste for the matter of life and destiny. We must let God take the lead in every aspect of our life for He never fails.